‘Heroine of your life’

Nora Ephron

So many of us can identify with the people or events in Nora Ephron’s books and screenplays. In addition to being a wonderful writer and storyteller she was an inspiration. She took the awkward surprises of life and turned them into truthful entertainment.

Ephron died Tuesday, June 26, 2012. From mail girl to journalist, author and filmmaker, she remains an inspiration and an unforgettable influence on modern culture.

How I identified with Rita Wilson’s character (“Sleepless in Seattle”) crying while describing the final scene of “An Affair to Remember.” I know that scene, and countless others in her films, resonated with women worldwide.

Who can forget the brotherly insight David Hyde Pierce shared with Meg Ryan in that same movie: “When you’re attracted to someone, it just means that your subconscious is attracted to their subconscious, subconsciously. So what we think of as fate is just two neuroses knowing that they are a perfect match.”

For me, what remains in the forefront of all the memorable words she wrote or spoke is a line from her 1996 Wellesley Commencement address. Ephron, class of 1962, with wisdom and truth, told the graduating women: “Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.”

She showed us it’s possible.